Monday, July 6, 2009
Pregnancy Guilt
I read an interesting topic today on an infertility blog - pregnancy guilt. At first I thought this topic was a strange one. However after reading the first few sentences, I realized that I had this - and still do to an extent - just now it is "mommy guilt". I still find myself not wanting to attend baby showers and feel a pang of sadness if I run into a pregnant teen or a woman with several children at her feet already. Meanwhile, I feel guilty being a mother since I still have friends and family that are struggling with becoming parents. I suppose once you are a casualty of infertility, those feelings never truly go away - you just become a survivor. So I will say a prayer tonight for those like me that have ART children and long for more, and for those who still have empty arms. We are not alone in our quiet suffering.
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This is a great topic. Being pregnant now, I often feel guilty in the face of fellow sub-fertiles. Even though I went through 3 tries to get here, I still feel the guilt when I walk around and wonder if there are hurting woman who see me and feel sad or angry. I know when I was not yet pregnant, I had moments of pure hatred in me towards pregnant woman-even though I had no idea how they got there or what their struggle was. Even stranger, I still get angry at people who got pregnant the "old-fashioned way." I thought that I would get over that, but apparently not. I just feel the emotion, acknowledge it and move on. I am so happy and so blessed for my life and my own perfect miracle and I don't want anything to take away from that.
Couldn't agree more!
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