We are working on the home study paper work right now. Gathering up all the necessary documents - like birth certificates, etc. Once we get through the home study, then it is all about waiting - again. I swear God really tests my resolve and patience level. I am not good at waiting......
The birthmother had an OB apppointment yesterday and all is going well. The baby's heartbeat is 160 - nice and strong for 13 wks. She will have another appointment in Feb.
The birthfamily has given me permission to share our story. The birthmother, H, is also Little Miss A's birthmother. Yes, that makes Little Miss A and our baby half siblings - they have different birth fathers. The children will know both grew in H's tummy - the truth is always best - and it won't be some "big" announcement when they are a certain age. It will "just be". Just like my boys know they are IVF babies that were once frozen, just like they already know that Miss A grew in H's tummy and that Big B (Miss A's soon to be miracle little brother) grew in Sarah's tummy.
Yes, we will have a unique family to say the least. A great friend and fellow adoptive momma puts it best. Adoption is an adjective. It simply describes the "how" our family came to be. It does not define it.
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You were close if you were referring to me...I say, "Adoption is a VERB. It describes the way that a child comes into a family." No different than C-Section or Vaginal Birth, IVF, Embryo Adoption, Surrogacy or Biologically describes the way a child comes into a family. I say, adoption is not an adjective or a descriptive word as it only describes the way that the child joined them & became part of the family, but it doesn't in any way define the relationship or their place in the family. But, either way-you got your point across. ;o) Hugs! Still SO excited for you guys!!! Some days I just still can't believe it! WooHoo!! Jen P.
I guess though in re-reading my post, it could be an adjective still since it's describing the way the child joins the family. An adjective is defined as a descriptive word, so that would still work. A verb is an action word, so since adoption is the action that makes it happen, that works too.
Things that make you go, "Hmmmm....".
Either way-we are family, she is our daughter & this little peanut or "sparkler" will be your son or daughter PERIOD!
& again...we are SOOOO excited! (in case I hadn't mentioned it! HA!)
Jen P.
Hi Andrea! I just want to say congrats, congrats congrats! I am so excited for you and the rest of your Clan ;) We have learned, too, that it does not matter how we become a family; rather, that we are a family. We, too, have shared with Abby since day one that she was adopted. Of course this is not to separate her in any way, but, rather, to be an open book so that she will always (hopefully!) be proud of her story and our journey as we became a family. I know you feel the same way about all of your babies! While we were going through the adoption process we did a lot of reading, classes, research, etc. And, the one thing that was the same across the board was to be an open book with your child, and not to spring a shocking surprise on them one day. What a special bond Addison and your little peanut will share! Again, congrats; and I wish you peaceful days during your wait!
Love,
TJ
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